Hansika Motwanni finally spoke out about her divorce with Sohael Khturiya. She chose to speak on her terms and address the noise surrounding her personal life. In a recent Hauterrfly interview, she made it clear to the public that speculations about her personal life are of little value to her. She said, “People wanted clickbait and they got it.” They wanted headlines and they got them. I will never clarify it because it does not matter to me. It’s fine. I have no regrets. It’s better to leave the train if it turns out you were on the wrong one than to suffer. My family has been a great support. I have no regrets. I am very happy with where I am.” She also spoke about her immediate family’s role during a difficult time, emphasizing the importance of emotional supports systems. “Both my brother and mother said, ‘If it’s not comfortable, then don’t do it.’ They have seen me in an extremely dark place. I am a very happy and jolly person. It was a little alarming for me to enter a dark place. They said, “Whatever you decide.” And to this day, no one knows the truth about what happened between us. I always say what happens between two individuals is only known by them. It is impossible for anyone else to comment or say anything about what happens between two people. “What are signs that it is better to ‘get of the train’ than continue to suffer emotional distress?” According Athul Raj, a counselling psychologist, indianexpress.com: “What I most often see in my practice is quiet resignation, not loud conflict. The body language of people who come in to see me tells a different story. They may say that everything is fine, but the words they use are not true. There is a feeling of fatigue, an emotional dullness. It is not a good idea to dismiss a relationship that consistently makes you feel smaller, more anxious or unnoticed as merely an adjustment. If you are constantly calculating your words, anticipating reaction, or avoiding conversation to keep things stable, then you are not being yourself in the relationship. You are managing the relationship. Over time, this takes a toll. The same hurt, same apologies and the same promises of doing better. When nothing fundamental changes, the psyche begins to register that it is a dead-end. The reason for staying becomes less about love, and more about the fear of leaving. Raj explains that boundaries are important when dealing with scrutiny surrounding personal relationships. In our social context everyone has an opinion, and feels entitled to an answer. A boundary can be as simple and straightforward as deciding what you won’t discuss, and sticking to that decision even if others are uncomfortable. It could mean limiting your access, saying less or stepping away from conversations that feel intrusive. Story continues below this advertisement. You don’t have to justify the end of something for it to be valid. You will be less likely to need to convince others when you are clear about what happened and why. It’s okay if not everyone agrees. Raj concludes that protecting your peace can sometimes mean allowing this distance.
