Why Gaurav chose singlehood? Understanding avoidant attachment, and the fear of intimacy. (Source: Instagram/@kapiltejwaniofficial)Bollywood actor Gaurav Gera has been single for a while now. He said in a recent interview with Humans Of Bombay that “it’s not my scene”. “There was a period, I was deeply involved..And afterwards, I never wanted to go back into that.” According to him, people with avoidant attachment often view themselves as “self-sufficient and independent, and may have trouble trusting others or allowing themselves to be vulnerable.” According to him, avoidant attachment is characterized by a tendency to avoid intimacy and a fear of intimacy. It can also be characterized by reluctance to trust others and a difficulty in expressing emotions. The more your partner tries to get close to you, the more you fight.
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Dr Darshi explained that people who have grown up with emotionally distant caregivers learn to be emotionally self-sufficient. “Such people don’t feel comfortable with emotional intimacy and self-reliance and independence become their main needs in a relationship,” said Darshi. To overcome or manage avoidant attachement style, Dr Darshi recommended engaging in therapy with mental health professionals. “A therapist will help you identify your attachment issues, and develop coping strategies to deal with them. They can also work with you to build trust and form healthy relationships. It can also be beneficial to practice self-reflection and self-awareness,” he told indianexpress.com.Pay attention to your own emotions and needs, and work on developing a sense of self-worth. Dr Darshi says it’s important to challenge negative beliefs about relationships and trust and to be more open and honest with others. Relationship expert suggests your attachment style can affect your dating success: what can helpAvoidantly attached people also have fewer, less intense friendships as they are uncomfortable being emotionally expressive or vulnerable in relationships and prefer to maintain emotional distance.Story continues below this adCompared to them, Dr Darshi highlighted how securely attached individuals tend to have stable, healthy and fulfilling friendships. “They are comfortable with being vulnerable and emotional in the presence of their friends. They can communicate openly and honestly. They are able set healthy boundaries and support their partners.” This leads to long lasting, trustworthy relationships,” he concluded.DISCLAIMER: This article is based on information from the public domain and/or the experts we spoke to.
