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‘Tossing’ Could Be A Potential Sign Of ADHD. Do You Do It?
You may have heard of a term that went viral on TikTok: the DOOM pile.
An acronym for “didn’t organize, only moved,” a DOOM pile could be a junk drawer with receipts, bills and other papers you’ve put off sorting. It could be a cardboard box in the corner of your bedroom full of desk clutter from your old job and other things you forgot you owned.
For many with ADHD ― or others who stare down DOOM piles and feel overwhelmed ― it’s easy to default to a less-than-ideal solution to all that organizational chaos: tossing. Yep, just throwing it all away, with fingers crossed there’s nothing too important in there.
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Cate Osborn, an author and ADHD advocate and educator, has tossed her DOOM pile and said she knows plenty of others in the ADHD community who’ve done the same thing.
“It’s not something that I would brag about or say that I’m particularly proud of, but I do know what it’s like to be so completely overwhelmed that it’s easier to say ‘you know what, I don’t need any of this’ and just throw everything away.”
Osborn, who’s known online as Catieosaurus and hosts the podcast “Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships,” gave an example to illustrate: organizing her desk.
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Inevitably, there are some items that don’t have an assigned place in her house. She’ll put that bric-a-brac in a box to sort through later on in the day. But then later comes and Osborn has run out of steam and focus.
“I’ll say, ‘OK, I’ll set this bin of stuff aside and go through it later,’ but because I also struggle with task prioritization and management and working memory, I keep forgetting about the box until I see the box, and often when I see the box, I’m in the middle of another task, so it sits for longer,” Osborn explained.
Finally, days, maybe weeks later, she’ll go through the box, only to experience choice paralysis: “What should I keep?” she’ll ask herself. “What if I need it? What if it’s useful later on.”
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Just like that, DOOM boxes pile up, until one day, she finally decides to sell the stuff online or, more likely than not ― toss it. (In her case, dropping it off at a local donation center.)
“It absolutely makes sense that a person with ADHD would get overwhelmed and say, ‘I don’t have the time, space or energy to go through this process, I’m just going to toss the entire box and be free of the clutter,’” she said.
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Madison Perry, a psychologist and owner of Austin Holistic Psychology, has heard clients talk about tossing. She likens the impulse to closing all of your internet browser tabs at once: It’s a dangerous business, but it feels amazing.
“Similarly, people with ADHD have too many mental tabs open at once,” she said. “They can become overwhelmed and have to find a way to exit out of a tab or two. Throwing something away takes maintaining that item or finding its rightful storage space off of the overwhelming to-do list.”
Of course, you don’t have to have ADHD to be guilty of tossing: Think of the sense of relief you feel when you’re able to hide your pile of laundry and toddler’s toys in a spare closet right before a guest arrives. Voila, your house is clean, at least temporarily.
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Unfortunately, sometimes in the process of wholesale trash tossing, you accidentally throw away important items (like crucial mail or documents), as has happened with some of Perry’s clients.
“They were in that much of a rush to declutter,” she said
What’s going on with the impulse to toss among ADHD-ers?
Tossing is directly tied to executive dysfunction, a behavioral symptom that interferes with ADHD-ers’ ability to begin tasks and comprehend what’s required to complete them, explained Oliver Drakeford, a psychotherapist in West Hollywood, California.
“It’s not just impulsive decluttering; for many people with ADHD, it’s an automatic, reactive behavior that helps people avoid feelings of uncertainty, anxiety and overwhelm that arises when the brain is overstimulated by a big pile of clutter or mess,” Drakeford told HuffPost.
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Tossing can also be linked with experiential avoidance, which, broadly speaking, are attempts to avoid thoughts, feelings, memories, physical sensations and other internal experiences, even when doing so hurts you in the long run.
“For example, rather than uncertainty and anxiety generated when you look at the pile of letters and bills that have accumulated, you avoid ― hopefully momentarily ― but throwing them all in a draw until you’re ready to look through them one by one,” Drakeford said.
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Drakeford sees “tossing” as an attempt to generate those same feelings of tranquility that a blank slate (or tidy room) can bring you. It feels like a win for those with ADHD because it brings instant relief, but the reality is that it’s a Band-Aid over deeper feelings of emotional overload or uncertainty.
“In the long run, tossing doesn’t really help develop distress tolerance for these uncomfortable feelings, nor does it help develop healthier ADHD management skills,” he said.
If you tend to ‘toss,’ here’s how to get a handle on it.
First, give some thought to why you ‘toss’ when you do.
The first step in making meaningful change from a therapeutic perspective is becoming aware of the emotions driving your actions, according to Drakeford.
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“If you’re not conscious of feelings like anxiety, uncertainty, or stress, you’re more likely to operate on autopilot and resort to tossing things impulsively,” he said.
By recognizing your emotional state, you create space to address and soothe those feelings ― giving you more options, which may still include tossing, but in a more mindful way, he said.
Don’t be afraid to throw away things that genuinely need to be tossed.
Look, it’s absolutely OK to throw out still-full take-out containers or donate coffee mugs you know you’re never going to use.
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“I think as people with ADHD it’s important to try to avoid being wasteful and contributing to piles of plastic in our landfills, but sometimes, taking ownership of our space means making hard choices and having to decide where we draw the line,” Obsorn said. “If being surrounded by moldy dishes is impacting your quality of life, then it may be time to be drastic.”
Try the ’10 Things Game.′
The ADHD brain often assumes it needs to accomplish everything all at once, which leads to stress and anxiety ― exactly the kind of bummer feelings that result in DOOM boxes and then tossing.
To curb this tendency and help cut down large tasks into smaller, manageable ones, give the “10 Things Game” a shot, Drakeford said.
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“For example, instead of tackling an entire stack of bills, start by opening just 10,” he said. “Or instead of cleaning the whole kitchen, begin with washing 10 dishes. Completing these small tasks often feels manageable, and if it does, you can always do 10 more.”
Establish a “Two-Minute Rule.”
If a task will take you less than two minutes to complete, do it now, Drakeford said.
“For instance, after breakfast, take two minutes to wash your cereal bowl or put it in the dishwasher right away ― don’t wait until you get home from work, do it now,” he said.
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Be kind to yourself.
Osborn said she reads a lot of the comments on ADHD articles and sees so much criticism and hurtful attitudes: Things like “you’re just lazy, you’re just not trying hard enough, just buckle down, you’re immature, what a terrible awful wasteful person.”
What she wants people to understand is that ADHD is a disability of executive function.
“It’s not that we aren’t trying hard enough, it’s not that we’re lazy, it’s that our brains literally process information differently, and those differences really show up in situations like this,” she said.
When you’re talking about ADHD, you’re not talking about a couple of easy steps like “sit down, go through the box, donate,” Osborn explained.
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“To the ADHD brain, it’s a series of hundreds of much smaller tasks, all of which are taking energy to process,” she said. “It’s not fun to feel so overwhelmed by a pile of stuff you throw it in the trash. When we do that, it’s because it’s a last resort.”
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Study reveals whether diet soda or water is better for weight loss
Diet drinks containing sugar substitutes were found to be as effective as water for supporting weight loss in overweight or obese adults, according to a two-year randomized trial.
The study, led by the University of Liverpool, England, included 493 participants ranging from 18 to 65 years old, all of whom had a body mass index (BMI) between 27 and 35 (overweight or obese).
Half of them received 22.3 ounces of water each day, and the other half received the same amount of soda with non-nutritive sweeteners (about two cans) for a 104-week period.
The group assigned to NNS drinks could choose from a variety of diet sodas, low-calorie fruit drinks and flavored waters. The primary sweeteners used were aspartame, acesulfame potassium and sucralose.
After two years, people drinking diet beverages had lost about 10.6 pounds, while those drinking water lost about 8.2 pounds.
People in both groups kept off a meaningful amount of weight for two years, even during the last year when they no longer had regular weight-management support, the researchers stated.
Both groups lost inches around their waists and hips and reduced body fat, but there was no meaningful difference between people drinking diet beverages and those drinking water.
Additionally, total cholesterol remained within the healthy range in both groups.
The findings were published in the British Journal of Nutrition.
“The study does not show that diet beverages themselves caused the weight loss,” Alix Turoff, a registered dietitian in New York City, told Fox News Digital.
“Everyone in the study was participating in a structured weight-management program that included nutrition counseling, behavioral support and physical activity recommendations.”
Turoff, who was not involved in the study, noted that the main value of including diet beverages comes down to substitution, “not that these beverages have a magical metabolic effect.”
Notably, the study compared diet beverages with water — rather than with sugar-sweetened drinks — making it a test of whether the sugar substitutes themselves appeared to hinder weight loss efforts.
“If someone normally drinks 250 calories of regular soda and switches to zero-calorie soda, then they’re saving calories,” she added.
The dietitian emphasized that these findings don’t mean water and diet soda are nutritionally identical.
“The study did not find significant between-group differences in hunger or sugar intake at the end of the trial, which is relevant because one common concern is that artificial sweeteners may increase appetite or lead to compensatory eating,” Turoff said.
“I would still recommend water as the primary hydration choice, but I don’t think people need to be afraid of diet drinks because they think they will automatically prevent fat loss or cause weight gain.”
There were some limitations with the research, including that it was conducted at one location in England. Race and ethnicity data were not collected, which limits the generalizability of the findings.
Only 220 of the 493 participants who started treatment completed the 104-week assessment. The second-year extension was also voluntary, meaning those who continued may have been more motivated or more likely to stick with the program, Turoff noted.
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Viola Davis, 61, Reveals Shocking Shingles Diagnosis
Viola Davis is speaking out about the shocking diagnosis she received following her 2012 Academy Award nomination.
The 61-year-old star told People in an article published Oct. 8 about her past health struggle, including “debilitating pain” that severely impacted her well-being.
“I was a new mom. I had just adopted my daughter. I was riding off of my Oscar nomination after The Help. So I was working, working, working, running myself into the ground,” Davis said.
She and her husband, actor Julius Tennon, 72, adopted their only child, Genesis Tennon, in 2011.
“And then all of a sudden, I woke up with flu-like symptoms and an extraordinarily painful rash,” Davis recalled.
She continued, “I mean, I would put it at a nine out of 10. It started on my stomach, and it wrapped around to my back. It went away, and then it came back with three blisters on my upper back. I was surprised how much pain it was. Hard to lie down, hard to get up, hard to walk. Nerve pain, all of that.”
The painful, mysterious symptoms first made Davis suspect a poisonous spider had bitten her.
However, a doctor confirmed she was suffering from something much more common: shingles.
Shingles can affect anyone who has had chickenpox and, in rare cases, people who have taken the chickenpox vaccine, according to the Cleveland Clinic. It is most common in people over 50 and those with weakened immune systems.
Some experts have also suggested a link between shingles and heightened stress.
The virus causes a rash that often appears in a single stripe, with blisters that can be extremely painful.
Shingles can cause symptoms like fever and headache and lead to complications, including lingering nerve pain. The rash can take up to five weeks to disappear completely, although symptoms may calm down after a week.
Davis described the diagnosis as “the surprise of my life.”
“I felt that I sort of was immune to any disease at that point because I worked out, I ate right. I felt that I was healthy because I did all the right things. And then all of a sudden, I have shingles,” she said.
Adding, “I felt like I was a soldier, and the more that I could muster through, the stronger I was. I didn’t know that that’s not what strength is about. Strength is about sort of loving on your body and experiencing good health as you age.”
The experience inspired Davis to partner with GSK for their new “Shingles, Actually” campaign. The initiative aims to raise awareness of shingles and encourage people over 50 to talk with their doctors about preventive actions.
“I was there for my daughter. I was there for my husband, there for my employees, and I sort of put all of them on a level of importance higher than myself, you know? And I felt that that’s what defined me as a powerful modern-day woman, that I could sort of sacrifice my life for others,” Davis said.
Adding, “And that’s not the case for me anymore. I feel like I’m important enough and my body is important enough to listen to it and to honor it.”
While Meryl Streep ultimately took home the Oscar in 2012 for her role in The Iron Lady, Davis went on to win an Academy Award for her portrayal of Rose Maxson in Fences, opposite Denzel Washington.
The acclaimed star is a rare EGOT winner, meaning she has won Emmy, Grammy, Oscar, and Tony awards.
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Sexually transmitted diarrhea is morphing into a superbug
You don’t have to be a pioneer on the Oregon Trail to catch the bug that causes dysentery.
Nowadays, the infection is spreading more through sex — and evolving into something that’s “close to untreatable,” one expert said.
Shigella bacteria infect nearly half a million people in the US every year — causing diarrhea with blood or mucus (the hallmark of a dysentery infection), stomach pain, cramps, fever and vomiting.
Scientists are learning more about why the disturbing disease is spreading so quickly, and why it’s developing a resistance to treatment.
Spreading through sex
Shigella is a nasty illness that causes more than uncomfortable doo-doos. It can become life-threatening by dehydrating and depleting bodily fluids including blood, causing bacterial and septic shock, neurological complications, and internal bleeding and infection.
The bacteria spreads through infected poop that gets into the mouth because of ill-washed hands, or swallowing tainted food or water. A minuscule amount — as few as 10 organisms — is enough to get you sick.
The population most likely to get infected are children under 5, who catch it at day care and schools from other kids who are just starting to learn about keeping themselves clean. Travelers to places where sanitation standards are lower, and people experiencing homelessness are also at higher risk.
But the population that’s experiencing one of the fastest rises in shigella infection are gay and bisexual men, and other men who have sex with men (GBMSM). Experts say shigella is “endemic” to these communities, meaning it’s constant and regularly present.
A study in July showed that the spread of the disease through sex grew 15% faster year-over-year between 2015 and 2020 compared to spread through travel, food, or nursery outbreaks.
Emerging evidence suggests that sex may even be the major route of transmission now, but it’s hard to tell when it’s not asked about when patients show up for medical care.
Experts say many people don’t realize Shigella can spread through sex — and that lack of awareness may be fueling infections.
“Many men who have sex with men are unaware of the serious and increasing risk posed by sexually transmitted Shigella,” said Cambridge geneticist Kate Baker, a lead author on the July study.
Becoming a superbug
As shigella spreads rapidly, it’s also becoming harder to manage. The CDC reports that drug-resistant strains of the infection skyrocketed from 0% in 2011 to 8.5% in 2023.
“This disease has gone from being relatively treatable with off-the-shelf drugs to being close to untreatable over the course of the last decade or so,” Baker said.
Why is this happening? Some experts believe “bystander resistance” might be at play. This happens when the wrong antibiotic is used for a pathogen, not only failing to kill the disease, but also accidentally giving the disease the opportunity to develop resistance to that antibiotic.
The CDC reports that most drug-resistant shigella cases affected adult men. The strains of shigella spread through sex are serious. Research shows that those who contracted shigella through sex were hospitalized for four to five days, on average.
“This isn’t just one form of sexually transmissible diarrhea,” Baker told Science Alert.
“This is multiple overlapping variants emerging that are all quickly becoming resistant to the drugs we use to treat them. It’s highly likely that if you contracted your Shigella through sex, you require different treatment to someone who contracted it through travel.”
Treating and preventing shigella
Many cases of shigella resolve on their own within a week, with the help of rest and fluids. But for serious infections, antibiotics might be used not only to shorten the illness but to reduce contagiousness, as well.
This is becoming harder as the strains become more resistant to antiobiotics. That’s why the CDC is urging more attention and development of prevention strategies.
They recommend:
Washing hands, genitals, and anus with soap and water before and after sexual activity. This applies to everyone having anal, oral, and vaginal sex — not just men who have sex with men.
Washing sex toys with soap and water
Using barriers like condoms and dental dams
The California Department of Public Health also adds simply, “don’t have sex with someone who has had diarrhea in the last two weeks.”
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My husband’s anxiety has always taken one particularly strange form. But things just escalated beyond what I can stand.
Each week, exclusively for Slate Plus members, Prudie discusses a new letter with a fellow Slate colleague. Have a question for Prudie? Submit it here.
Dear Prudence,
My husband has pretty severe anxiety/OCD, mostly concentrated on health and medical situations. Nothing can be a minor illness—it is a sign of something much more serious and sinister. He is on medication for it and he reports that it helps, but I do think he most likely needs a higher dosage or something for more support. He regularly (probably four times a year) becomes convinced he has an STI of some type due to relatively benign symptoms like a rashy dry skin patch or a bruise near his genitals. When this happens, he usually asks me a couple times if I think he could have (fill in the blank STI). I usually just ask if he’s had sex with anyone else or thinks I have, he says no, and I say “then I don’t see how you would have an STI” and refuse to answer him on it again (original advice of his doctor/counselor when starting OCD treatment).
But this last time has been different.
About one week after travelling for work, he asked again about what was definitely an eczema patch. I answered as I usually do, but a couple days later he told me he was really worried about it and was going to contact his doctor to order blood testing for STIs. I said I thought that was unnecessary. He got the tests done and everything was negative, so he went right back to his usual self.
But now I’m convinced he cheated on me on his work trip. Since starting his medication, he has never needed more than a verbal confirmation that he wouldn’t have an STI. I have never thought he would cheat on me, but he did go out with people one night, and I know they all drank quite a lot. When he travels, he normally calls me either before bed or in the morning while I’m getting ready for work and he didn’t this time, instead texting that he was out and then around lunchtime the next day saying it had been a rough night/morning. What would you recommend as the best way to approach him on this? I’m worried he’s going to just explain it away as his OCD being more severe this time and needing more reassurance, but I also think this is a reasonable reaction on my part. I feel like I’m always supporting him through the things he struggles with and the one time I have a concern (that actually has some evidence to it!), it’s just going to get brushed off.
—Now I’m Anxious
Jenée Desmond-Harris: I don’t know why I initially misread this as being about her brother (I truly pulled that out of nowhere) and I was so happy to say “You don’t have to worry about this! It’s not your business.” Now that I have my facts right, things have become a lot heavier. Yeah, this is totally her business.
Lizzie O’Leary: I am kind of stunned by the lack of trust here. And maybe that’s not fair, but it’s wild to be repeatedly asking your spouse if they have had sex with other people, even if most of that is coming from a place of mental illness! I think that is the place these two need to start.
Jenée: Right, if you’re going to have ideas about STIs that don’t have a basis in reality, you may as well take the irrational thinking all the way and imagine that you got them from a toilet seat or something.
I agree with you that the lack of trust is a big problem. And actually, it would be helpful for the letter writer to strip away all the mental health history and ideas about what kind of support she’s owed and how her husband will receive her concerns and focus on the core issue: She thinks her he cheated! And that he’ll lie about it! So maybe the goal is not to get him to take that concern seriously, but to decide what it means for whether she wants to be in this marriage.
Do you think a digital snooping investigation is warranted here? Because I know nobody wants to get divorced based on a weird feeling alone.
Lizzie: I think some counseling is warranted. Digital snooping is so messy, and even if she finds some proof of affair, getting it that way is horrible and upsetting. And puts her on the back foot. I think she needs to tell her spouse how she feels, AND that she is so turned around by all of this that she doesn’t know whether to trust him. It sucks, but I don’t think there is a way to be like “hmm yeah I think you may still be lying though,” without really probing what that means about the marriage.
Jenée: Well, I’m glad there’s one reasonable and mature person in this chat. I’m not sure why I suggested the 19-year-old approach. Counseling would be great because maybe things could be repaired (I know an Esther Perel or Dr. Orna wouldn’t see it as a dealbreaker even if the cheating allegations were confirmed—maybe there’s a better relationship on the other side of this!) and if not, it would be nice to have someone to guide the couple through wrapping things up. Oh, and maybe the therapist would suggest more individual work for the husband, which could lead to a medication adjustment, which could lead to STI worries no longer playing such a big role in this relationship.
Lizzie: Yeah, at the bare minimum, repeated allegations of cheating over random rashes are not a great way to live! Jenée, maybe if I see Dr. Orna in the neighborhood walking her little dog, I should ask her? Obviously I will not, because I am a New Yorker and we mind our own business. But still. LW, this is not about this one-time accusation, it’s about the fact that your marriage needs more support! Dealing with mental illness can be incredibly difficult in a relationship, but I don’t think it’s impossible. You two just need to be able to trust each other. And right now you can’t.
Jenée: Yes, please. Dr. Orna and her dog have enough couples to deal with.
Anyway, letter writer, sorry to pass the buck to a therapist here, but it really is the best way forward. Pretend you never heard me mention snooping. I wish you a future with more trust and fewer suspect rashes.
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Sleep Research May Shift Thinking on ADHD
Generally speaking, people with ADHD tend to have trouble sleeping. But new research suggests that sleep problems might not merely be a symptom of the condition but at the root of what’s causing it, reports the Washington Post. A perspective paper (not a clinical trial) in Frontiers in Psychiatry sees a strong correlation between ADHD and people with dysfunctional circadian rhythms, which govern when we sleep and wake. Physician Brandon Luu and co-author Nicholas Fabiano pull together “convergent” evidence that people with ADHD often run on a significantly later internal schedule: up to 78% show delayed sleep timing, with melatonin kicking in much later than is normal.
“In other words, some people with ADHD may not simply be ‘bad at going to bed,'” observes a post at Proactive Psychiatry. “Their internal clock may actually be shifted later.” The researchers urge clinicians to routinely screen for circadian disruption and use sleep tracking as a cheap, low-risk tool for ADHD. The wider field is moving that way, too: Psychiatrists are probing whether misaligned body clocks underlie conditions from depression to schizophrenia, and testing fixes like morning light therapy, structured wake times, and timed exercise to “phase shift” patients closer to society’s demands, notes the Post. The thinking is that in at least some cases, recalibrating the clock could ease the mind.
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