Kaushal believes that emotional vulnerability is best handled with emotional understanding, not logic. (Image: Instagram/Vicky Kaushal). Arguments, conflicts, and what many in India, especially those in the north, call kalesh are a part of everyday life, whether with partners, family, or colleagues. How you respond to these moments can resolve the problem or make it worse. Vicky Kaushal, the Uri actor, once shared an insightful take on how to handle such situations. “Always the best way to navigate a kalesh situation is to cater to the most emotionally hurt person.” Don’t listen to logic, but to emotions. In an interview with ETimes, he explained that Kalesh occurs when one person is logical and the other emotional. How accurate is this advice in terms of mental health? This is why logic alone often fails to resolve conflicts when someone is already hurt or overwhelmed,” she explains. When someone is hurt or overwhelmed, logic alone can’t resolve the conflict. When one person seeks emotional validation and the other responds by giving facts or reasoning, this can feel dismissive, fueling the conflict. ‘Being nice is overrated,’ says Vicky Kaushal; expert on why people suppress emotions and turn into pleasersBut logic still mattersWhile emotional validation is important, Dr Chandra cautions against completely ignoring logic. If you only address the emotions and not the root issue, the conflict could resurface. She adds that a sustainable resolution requires a balanced approach of empathy and rational discourse. This means that emotions may open a door to resolution, but logic closes it. Story continues below this advertisement.
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